Whitney, 25, Washington, DC, USA

I was told once by my older sister something that has stuck with me for years. It is very simple, but so very powerful and true. She told me: "Whitney, you can NEVER be in a happy successful relationship until you are totally and completely happy being single." 


I told her to shove it at the time. 

Now, 5-6 years later, I know exactly what she meant. How can you make someone else happy if you aren't happy with yourself? How will you be able to stand on your own two feet if you have depended on someone else your whole life? I hate to admit it sometimes, but big sister knows best!! (Sometimes...) 
 
Nick F, 25, NYC

Okay so back in senior year of college I was in my friend's room and he was a sophomore at the time. His roommate was complaining about this one girl who wanted to just "cuddle" while he wanted to get his sexy time on with her and I felt like dropping him a bit of knowledge. I basically went on to go ahead and explain the basics that you can't instantly always sleep or get with with any girl, but you will have to put a little bit of time and effort in with some (which may be marginal at best/worst, depending on how you look at it lol) and even if you do not 'succeed' with that one girl, you create the multiplier effect. 

The secret of the multiplier effect is simply the fact that if you become a likeable guy to one girl and have a reputation of being cute/fun/nice with her. Over time you will begin to meet that girl's friends and your previous "good karma" despite a lack of "success" with her will carry forward with you... and so forth and so forth. Before long, your one failure explodes into many great successes--it's like a good investment.

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Nick F, 25, NYC tells us the secret to charming a woman; they're nothing like those Five Pillars of Islam... 
Ultimately it all comes down to a short list of four things you must do to intrigue, seduce and charm a member of the opposite sex:


1. Make her smile and laugh: Serotonin is always good. Jokes, bring her to a comedy club if your sense of humor sucks, etc. 

2. Stimulate her mentally: prod the areas of her psyche that she is proficient in and learn from her to create conversation and to inform yourself on her interests and her mental strengths.

3. Make her feel good about herself: This will help make her smile and also create self esteem for her to be more comfortable and closer to you.

4. Please her physically: sexually and with affection. Cuddling, massages, kissing, orgasms.